Tips and tricks that help you manage your emotions Emotional management and difficult relationships are closely linked because effective emotional management is essential for navigating challenging interpersonal dynamics. Regulating your emotions means taking responsibility for your feelings, reactions, and your internal world. Have your emotions work for you, not against you. There are a lot of debates and discussions this year on emotional regulation/ management, and from my experience, I noticed that the more uncertainty we have, the less we can regulate/ manage our emotions. Tips and tricks for emotional management: The more my clients took emotional management as their objective, they went easily through the 3 phases of learning: Emotional management is a problem within the problem. Most people stop working on emotional regulation after the first phase of learning, being afraid or emotionally interfering with the possibility of not making it. It might look too scary or to hard work to solve it once you know. And they stop taking action, that would be the way to change habits and beliefs. The more you feel your emotions consciously and on your terms, the more you can stay present and manage difficult conversations in an effective way. Do you have a plan before starting a difficult conversation? When you notice yourself putting off a difficult conversation, take the proactive step of planning for the discussion. Start by answering the following questions (from Judy Ringer’s ‘checklist for difficult conversations’): These questions can help you reflect on your motives, and then imagine the other person as a potential partner, rather than an opponent. In today’s world, we can add value whenever we consider a win-win conversation with a partner. When we think win-lose, difficult conversations might bother us for a long time. You can actively develop your emotional management skills with me! Schedule a meeting here and let’s start this journey together!
Type of boundaries and how to protect them There are many different types of boundaries. One of the most frequent ones is the time boundary or when we are busy all the time and it becomes busy to be busy. Building awareness of your boundaries will protect your time, your energy, and your emotional capacity. Time boundary is what we all hear all the time when we meet someone and when we want to schedule a meeting. It happens when we have a low level of awareness and we let the outside world take us hostage. 1. Time boundaries Time boundaries protect your most precious resource (time 😊). They manage how many hours you dedicate to relationships and activities. We respect these boundaries by allowing others to define for themselves how to manage their time. Exercise – food for your thought: 2. Emotional boundaries There are many different types of boundaries. One of the most overseen is the emotional boundary when we are fighting our emotions and we make decisions based on our logic only. Emotional boundaries drain your energy and keep you in a victim’s mental status, taking a lot of time to come back to the state of mind that you had before. Emotional boundaries include not only how we want to feel but also how we want others to feel. In short, it means separating your feelings from the feelings of others. We respect emotional boundaries by letting each person have their own emotional experience without trying to manipulate it. It means feeling safe to experience our own authentic emotions and give others that safety as well. Exercise – food for your thought: 3. Psychological boundaries One of the most recurrent boundaries is psychological boundaries. Psychological boundaries deal with your thoughts, beliefs, and ideas, as well as how, when, and how much you want to share them. Each person is entitled to their worldview and personal way of interpreting reality. We respect psychological boundaries by honoring different belief systems and refraining from manipulation or pressuring others to share when they don’t want to. Exercise – food for your thought: You can actively work on your boundaries with me! Schedule a meeting here and let’s start this journey together!