Tips and tricks that help you manage your emotions. Emotional management and difficult relationships are closely linked because effective emotional management is essential for navigating challenging interpersonal dynamics.
The link between working hard and life disappointment
Type of boundaries and how to protect them. One of the most frequent ones is the time boundary or when we are busy all the time and it becomes busy to be busy.
Main barriers and how to overcome them
The quality o your life is in direct proportion with the amount of uncertainty that you can accept and deal with, in your life If there is a scale from -100 (CERTAINTY) to + 100 (UNCERTAINTY), where do you think most people are? Most people want to live with certainty in their lives, so from -100 to zero. There is a cost to that- those people are dreaming about things they never do, and most do not know how to change. Reading another book will not help you become disciplined about what matters to you. It will bring you focus, maybe it will inspire you. Knowledge without energy is nothing… Uncertainty needs to be managed , if you wish to achieve desired results and (be highly focused) while being balanced in life. To manage your uncertainties you need to go through few stages
One of the CEOs I work for asked me ” how can I protect myself regarding the recession that might come?” The simple answer that I am sure he knew is that good people are the best protection against recession. In times of recession, you need good salespeople to sell the products. You need good people in marketing who think about effective ads You need good financial people to build a correct accounting and tax structure. You need good HR people to create a pleasant environment in which the above people can work with pleasure. Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay
Burnout is common in any workforce and primarily in high performers. It is not only about working hard, long hours, and with complexity, it is about Emotional resources that are drained out. The 12 stages of burnout are very relevant in case you think this is not your problem (and it might not be), or that your resources are unlimited- as some of us believe Source: thepresentpsycologist Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay
We are beings that evolve through learning. Everything we do, and where we are at this point in human evolution, is based on our natural state as learners. And we never stop learning. We are constantly learning all our lives.
You may or may not know that mentorship of disciples is the oldest learning path in the world.
The reason that behaviour becomes so important in leadership roles is the fact that you are more visible: you meet and talk with more people and you are exposed to a wider, more complex interpersonal environment. Not to mention the fact that you are becoming an example for others: you walk the walk and talk the talk. This is the part that you cannot change much as a leader. The only thing that you can manage is your behavior, if you are willing to spend the time learning about yourself and decoding said behavior. As people, we only understand what we see rather than what we do not see. What does seeing each other mean? It means that, more than registering each other physically, we notice and observe behaviour, or the way in which people act or conduct themselves. This is how others come to see you as a leader: through your behavior. When do we become aware of the importance of behaviour? Usually only when we behaved in an inappropriate manner. Or, when we meet someone who is really challenging us, and it feels that whatever we are doing or saying, it’s not okay. We feel it so obviously at that point, we know that behavior counts! Let me share with you a few leadership situations where your behavior matters a lot: Let’s stop here, and think about the impact of your behavior on situations, people and contexts, together. Can you share with me one specific behaviour that you’ve shown in your leadership role that you remember? What was the context? Was your behavior appropriate? Did you feel good after? Behavior is the result of things that we know and don’t know about ourselves and others. About yourself: In a discussion with someone, you behave in a certain way based on your beliefs—about the other person, your experience together, what you know about them, what you previously did in a similar situation, if you think that you can or cannot solve something together, your emotional state etc. The more you are aware of this and the more you learn about why and how you behave in a certain way to accomplish what you hope to achieve, the better you can behave as a leader in the future. If you’ve made it to a leadership role, you have what it requires to be a leader. I wonder: in your role, how do you perceive the behavior of other leaders and how you behave in response to that? The more you realize how complex the causes of other people’s behavior’s are, the more you can learn to listen to what people are not saying to see things that are not shown, and to understand the multitude of elements guiding people’s actions. The iceberg model is a good way to understand this. In the above picture, what is visible (the tip of the iceberg) is the behaviour itself. That is all that you can see with the person in front of you. What you do not see, however, is the larger, hidden part of that person and that interaction. They may not be aware of this either. Outward behavior and action is just the visible part of who we are, but it is based on our hidden experiences, fears, values, believes, know-how etc. My hope is that by knowing this you can realize just how complex human behaviour is. This may help you decide if you want to jump to conclusions regarding someone’s behaviour, or slow down and attempt to understand it. Your behaviour very much depends on how much you know about yourself and how willing you are to align yourself with your intentions by choosing the most appropriate behaviour style based on what those intentions are. This requires that you find who you really are. Image by Tumisu from Pixabay
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